Tuesday, August 17, 2004

On Friends

I had debated not writing anything tonight as I’m a bit pressed for time. But I just thought I’d make a quick plug for friends.

I told Kevin kinda nonchalantly about a fun announcement that had happened at work. He told me that he was proud of me and that he wanted to take me out for a drink to celebrate, so we did tonight. The sentiment was very thoughtful.

It may not be as obvious to many how much Kevin and Scot have been supportive of me in the last six months. They have looked after me and have made it known that they were “just a phone call away” if I needed someone to talk to or of I needed help. I have indeed taken them up on this in my times of need. They have given so much.

Scot and Kevin are role models. I’m lucky.

Comments on "On Friends"

 

Anonymous Anonymous said ... (12:35 PM) : 

Thank You!! S

 

Anonymous Anonymous said ... (8:01 PM) : 

Matt,
And I am glad to be your friend after-the-fact. I mean I met you when you were with Mark, but it has been since then that I have been able to spend some time with you on a few occasions and get to know you separately from knowing you as part of a couple.
I think you are far better off without him in your life and as time goes on you need to make sure that there are still no little ties trying to hold on to keep you connected to him in any way.
And thanks for being my friend, too. Dennis

 

Anonymous Anonymous said ... (1:20 AM) : 

I believe in karma. I also believe in a cosmic balance. I also believe in God. I've had many rough times in my life. The good Lord sees fit to put the right person in my life at the right time to help me through the rough spots. Now, it seems that the good Lord has chosen to put me in the life of another, for the same purpose. I feel very privileged:

To have the respect and friendship of Matt.
To know that the good Lord picked me to help Matt through his rough spot.
To know that I have contributed.

Matt, keep up the good work. And keep your eyes open for when it's your turn to fill in the gap for another.

RoomDawgg

 

Anonymous Anonymous said ... (5:05 PM) : 

And very good pictures of both of these handsome devils!
I am fortunate to have such attractive gay male friends.
Dennis

 

Anonymous Anonymous said ... (6:20 PM) : 

I think everyone needs to remember that some of us that visit this blog don't pass judgement or blame on why the relationship between Matt and Mark ended. I happen to love Mark and think he is a wonderful friend, person, and chef. I love Matt also, but would hate for this to turn into some vindictive forum to deal with past relationship issues. I just had to voice my opinion. It's a very interesting blog Matt. I had no idea you could be my new fitness trainer!

Stacey

 

Anonymous Anonymous said ... (2:14 AM) : 

Stacey,

I realize that there are two sides to every story, and as I didn't get to know Mark all that well, the few encounters that I had with him while they were together were not encouraging. In fact, rather discouraging. Maybe I didn't get to know the side of him that you are seeing. Maybe I just didn't understand where he was coming from in a cosmic sort of way. I do recall two encounters as we spent two dinner evening together with two friends of mine on two separate occassions. Niether of the friends of mine wanted to ever experience that again. The person you know must have been absent on these occassions. Keep in mind that alcohol was involved, which seems to drastically change his demeanor. Just my opinion and nothing else. I'm glad that you are keeping the communication lines open equally with both Matt and Mark....it's important in the long run.

S

 

Anonymous Anonymous said ... (7:25 PM) : 

I would like to clarify my earlier comment about Matt being better off without Mark in his life.
I do not know Mark, although I met him briefly on one occasion, but he and I did not speak much at the time. After reading Stacey's comment, I am thinking I should have said that in my opinion, they are better off to be away from each other. Some people, no matter how wonderful they may be, just do not belong together, and even if they were a great match at one time, they can grow apart, and ultimately decide they are better off to no longer stay together.
I don't know the details of their relationship or their parting so my previous comments were not intended to put blame on either person. If friends of either party took my comments that way, I am sorry, and I ask you to accept my apology.
My comments were based on getting to know Matt and become his friend after he became single again. I don't know Mark at all and really have no opinion of him other than to think that if Matt was with him that long, then he must be a good guy.

 

Anonymous Anonymous said ... (7:26 PM) : 

ARGH!!! After all that, I left off my name!! The clarification entry was from me!
Dennis

 

Anonymous Anonymous said ... (7:45 AM) : 

Thank you Dennis. That was a wonderful explanation of your original post. Coming from someone that has been divorced within the past two years and has no love for her former husband, I just wanted to express my opinion that as friends we should stay out of it. When you're with the person you love all you see is the good qualities, but when you break up, all you see are the bad things. The latter is what you bitch to all your friends about! As a friend of Matt & Mark, I have only seen both their good sides together and apart. Hell, I could have been a better wife and my ex could have been a better husband, but it's over and done. I live in a glass house, so I don't like to throw stones....unless of course I am feeling a bit catty. :) You sound like a very good guy.

 

Anonymous Anonymous said ... (7:46 AM) : 

And I made the same stupid mistake as far as my name.

Stacey

 

Anonymous Anonymous said ... (3:33 PM) : 

Thank you Stacey! I went through a NASTY divorce a few years ago and I know that it is very difficut for people to remain friends with both parties after something like that happens. During that time, some people decided, for whatever reason, to no longer be my friend, so I know how that feels to not only lose your spouse but to lose 'friends' in the process. It is nice to see that you are remaining friends with both of these guys since I am sure they both need it. My divorce is old news now and we have all moved on and I am happy to say that I have made many new freinds since then. I think what helped me the most was accepting myself for who I am, knowing that who I am actually helps me to be a good father to my 8 year old son because I am honest with myself, and allowing other friends to know me without feeling like I have to live up to some pre-set standard. Matt talks about his coming-out, well, I kind of had my own after the divorce. In that I mean I decided to accept myself for who I am and not try to live my life to please other people. I have yet to dicsuss these issues with my family and some of my friends but I just have not felt the need to make a formal announcement. When the time is right, I will know and that is when it will happen. If they ask before then, I hope they are ready for the truth, because I stopped lying about it a long time ago. And I will remember to put my name in this time! -Dennis

 

Anonymous Anonymous said ... (10:47 PM) : 

Dennis...you should e-mail me. I hate to put it out on this website, but here it goes...hussified@yahoo.com.

That's my post-marriage e-mail address! I would love to hear from you in a private e-mail. You seem to have so much to offer in wiseness. :)

Stacey

 

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