Wednesday, August 18, 2004

On Good Deeds and “Random Acts of Kindness”

I don’t know how the discussion began with Kevin and me. I can’t even tell you when we first brought it up. Kevin and I somehow started talking about little things that we like to do for people. I’ve had fun in the past finding situations to help where someone would not expect it. Examples: Mowing the neighbor’s lawn, giving up a seat in the bus, letting people cut ahead, helping a confused woman find her car, etc.

I don’t use the term “Random Act of Kindness,” but rather I like to think of it as helping someone out, without any form of retribution, whatsoever. It’s challenging, fun, and in most cases, takes less than 5 minutes.

Well, last night, at the bar, Kevin and I agreed to do 2 ("two") of these per week. We’d compare notes each Sunday night. Not sure what the consequence of not doing a good deed is, but it’s a good wager.

This wager is for 10 minutes or less a week. Roughly 1/1008th of a weeks span (assuming you sacrifice sleep time to find that giving moment.)

Kevin is on it! While I’ve been so focused on myself this week, he had the inspiration to wake up this morning and send a text message to everyone in his phone with a cell phone that would accept the text message. He sent a message to wish everyone a nice day.

Jerk! He’s two up on me!

Comments on "On Good Deeds and “Random Acts of Kindness”"

 

Blogger Chris Owens said ... (12:11 AM) : 

Sigh. I got that text message. I even blogged about it. I thought I was completely special. Now I find out I'm a homework assignment. :-P

That is a cool idea. I do things like that on occasion. The last one I did was replacing a friend's headlight on her Volvo (btw this is the same friend that screwed me over recently--some friend, huh?). :-P You don't always get what you give.

 

Anonymous Anonymous said ... (11:33 AM) : 

This is a GREAT idea and if everyone would do this, what kind of a world would this be?? And thanks to our friend Scot, I was introduced to an excellent movie that deals with this idea: PAY IT FORWARD. This is one of those movies that makes me cry every time I see it. And I also feel this is the best movie Helen Hunt has ever done, not to mention Kevin Spacey. Joel Lee Osment was very good also, although we have not seen him since, have we? If he is grown up now, he might be cute... oh, and a side bar to Kevin: I never recd a text message on my phone but I am ok with that... a personal email or even a phone call to my house will make up for my being forgotten (ignored?) lol Thanks! Dennis

 

Anonymous Anonymous said ... (1:02 AM) : 

How did this idea begin: about two years ago, Birmingham, Alabama...

"What have you done today to make you feel proud?
It's never too late to try
What have you done today to make you feel proud?
You could be so many people
If you make that break for freedom
What have you done today to make you feel proud?"

That's the chorus to the song "Proud" by Heather Small (QAF soundtrack). At the time, I commented to a friend that I tried to make those lyrics a part of my life. She turned to me and asked "So, what HAVE you done today to make yourself feel proud???" I didn't have an answer. I decided then and there that I needed to be able to answer that question every night before I went to bed. And then, as typical to my fashion, I forgot about it.

But the idea does keep coming up. As it did in a conversation with Matt. I agree that performing drive-by good deeds and random acts of senseless kindness are important; however, the overall idea is to do at least ONE thing during the day that makes you feel proud (of yourself, at least). Think about it...we do things EVERY day that make us feel ASHAMED of ourselves. But proud?? Maybe YOU do, and just don't realize it. If so, you need to stop and acknowledge those acts. Balance the cosmic scales a little bit.

The easiest remedy is of course the random act of senseless kindness (anonymous acts are preferable, to avoid personal gain). However, one should not limit oneself to just trying to find some poor old lady trying to cross the street.

Volunteering, writing a letter in favor of a good cause, standing up for your beliefs when they are publicly challenged, being daniel in the den of lions, being the unpopular but necessary voice of discension, NOT allowing yourself to be a part of road rage, picking up the trash on the street instead of walking over it....there are tons of things.

"I step out of the ordinary
I can feel my soul ascending
I am on my way
Can't stop me now
And you can do the same..."


What did I do today to make myself feel proud? nothing comes to mind. isn't that just the most pathetic thing? i've been awake since 8:30 a.m.....and not one thing.

"We need a change
Do it today
I can feel my spirit rising
We need a change
So do it today
'Cause I can see a clear horizon"

Thanks Heather.
Sincerely,

RoomDawgg

 

Anonymous Anonymous said ... (2:53 PM) : 

That's IT, RoomDawgg. I don't know what these Yankees have done to you, but you are FAR too sensitive and gross now. I'm coming to get you and bring you back to Alabama where we can deprogram you and get you started back on a healthy diet of bitterness and bitchery.

-s-

 

Anonymous Anonymous said ... (2:07 PM) : 

Matt,

I'm a little late on this one, but commenting nonetheless. Hope you had the opportunity to watch "Pay it forward" on TV sunday PM...if not, I have a copy I can lend to you. As Dennis mentioned in his comment, it's a great movie with the same potential. His basic idea, without giving the movie away, is to do something good for three people that would be hard to do, something they could not do themselves, and something that would make a difference in the world. These three people would, in turn, do the same for three more people and so on and so on. If you haven't seen the movie....and this goes out to all of the rest of you bloggers, please let me know and I'll lend you the copy.....excellent!

S

 

Anonymous Anonymous said ... (2:25 PM) : 

Or, in lieu of watching such an Osmentatious movie, you could just watch the Will and Grace episode of "Gay It Forward." Same basic idea, but funny. Ask Roomdawgg how many times I've gayed it forward....

-s-

 

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